INTERNET DATING AT ITS BEST/WORST
While love at first site is a romantic notion and one that some are fortunate to find, most have to settle for some type of a “chemistry” connection. This means that you may feel good about someone from the moment you meet, but unless it’s a chemical explosion, it’s not going to be at the same level as love at first site.
I posit that love at first site and chemistry in general is made up of both lust and the heart – sex and emotion, with lust/sex being the stronger component of the thing we call chemistry for men while emotion is the stronger component for women.
Many relationships are lopsided, where there can be love at first sight for one while the other sees nothing and would never pursue the relationship. Unless there is perfect and continues weighting of this thing we call love at first sight, a relationship could be clouded with subtle cracks that allow it to fall apart for no apparent reason. And when the things that made for the chemistry fade, it is not likely that your lover is going to tell you he/she is not really that into you because they either wish to be kind or they don’t really understand it themselves.
The lucky ones are those who truly experience love at first sight and the feeling is equally mutual. They are using two extreme forces to bind them together – the emotion/heart and the sex/lust – the very strong glue of relationships.
The third component that makes up relationships has to do with reason. What are some of the reasons people get into relationships. Oh, there are so many reasons, but the big ones are for money, prestige, dependency, companionship, security, to leave a bad situation, and the list goes on.
For those who enter into relationships using nothing more than reason/the brain, they are often doomed to frustration and breakup over time if the reason for being in the relationship disappears. Everyone knows that if you marry only for money (a good reason if you want to live a rich life) and the money is gone, the relationship falls apart.
It’s all about balance. You need sound “reasons” combined with “chemistry” and a whole lot of “other things” to be explored at a future posting for relationships to work out.